There’s an old analogy about frogs and boiling water that I think applies to your individual struggle with debt. (Please, for the sake of the frogs, take my word for it and don’t try this at home.) The idea is that if you drop a frog in boiling water, it will immediately jump out. It senses it is in deep trouble and does what it needs to make a change for the better. However, if you put a frog in a pot of cool water and slowly raise the temperature, it’ll sit there until it becomes an appetizer.
Debt in America is no different. Thirty to forty years ago, cash was king. People buried it in the backyard in coffee cans and woke up with backaches because they stuffed their mattresses with it. Credit card debt, payday loans, and adjustable rate mortgages weren’t part of most people’s vocabulary.
Back then, if someone acquired too much debt, especially high-interest debt, they knew it was bad. They would be the talk of the neighborhood and would probably get a scolding from their family. There was an immediate incentive to change their financial behavior. They were like that frog dropped into a pot of boiling water.
Now, however, credit is everywhere. Not only have you likely been encouraged to use it by everyone from advertisers to financial experts, but you might actually feel scolded if you don’t! Young people are foolishly encouraged to build credit. Supposedly savvy investors borrow money to make more money. It’s everywhere.
If you grew up and learned the basics of personal finance in this environment, you were like that frog dropped in a nice comfortable pot of cool water. As the water “got hot” and your debts mounted, no one really acted that concerned. All the other frogs in the pot just sat there smiling right back at you. Eventually, your debts got too hot to handle, and here you are.